Top 10 Secrets of Creatively Successful Women
Creativity takes time and silent space
Each of us, who have creative talents needs to stake out some
quiet time regularly. You can schedule time daily or a couple of days
a week. This needs to be an appointment and commitment you keep with
There are cycles of creativity.
Just as there are seasons in a year and cycles in preparing,
planting, nurturing, waiting and harvesting - there are creative
cycles. We are not always in the harvesting phase. We do go through
the dormant cycles of winter that feel as though nothing is happening.
When we honor this, we complete the cycle and move into the planting
and harvesting phases.
Select mentors, friends and dream partners wisely.
I will paraphrase Helen Gurley Brown's quote "Don't expect
anyone to be happy for your success or big dreams. If you have a loved
one and a friend or two who are happy for you, consider yourself
lucky." Other people can stop your project or idea before you even act
on it. So, carefully select who you invite to be on your creative
team. Yes, still be friends with lots of people. When it comes to
working creatively, choose like minds and train them to be honest, yet
Commit to yourself.
Many women feel guilty when they take the time to engage in
their projects. It may mean having a messy house, not over committing
and saying no. In one study of women and creativity the biggest fear
was fear of lost or weakened relationships. We still need to be
connected. This may mean speaking with friends, lovers and children
about staying connected and nurtured during this process.
Set strong boundaries.
"I say no to many things, so that I may say Yes to what gives
me life." paraphrased from Oprah Winfrey - We need strong boundaries
so that we have energy and time for our creations.
Work from your strengths.
"If you were to spend 80% of your effort to become good at a
weakness you might improve that area 20%. But if you were to spend
that same 80% of your effort to improve an area of strength, you might
improve it 100-400% or more!" Cheryl Lackie
Fear is a companion of creativity. Make friends with fear.
Unless you have a high risk, thrill seeking personality you
will experience fear when you venture out into unfamiliar territory.
You can pause, look at it, slow down for a moment. However, do NOT let
it stop you! Susan Jeffers wrote in her book, FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT
ANYWAY, that the only way to lessen the fear is to do the thing we are
afraid of. We are always in a higher state of emotional arousal when
we try something new. Expect it, redefine it as performance energy and
Stop criticizing yourself.
We can defeat ourselves before we start by constantly feeling
we come up short. When you try something new always stay positive
about your performance. Yes, you can polish it and improve, but you
don't have to make yourself wrong to make something better.
Get over perfectionism.
When you have to do something perfectly, you will rarely try
something new....because you can't do it perfectly the first few
times. Yes, do great work, but don't hold onto it until it's perfect.
By the time it's perfect, it'll probably be outdated.
Play, have fun, feel joyful, get in the flow. Finally, creativity is about play, fun and flow. When you lose
track of time and have boundless energy, doing the thing you love, you
know you've found your highest creative expression.
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